How to Listen to Your Woman and Understand Her

Ask most men how they listen to their women, and what do they say?

“Well, I just shut my mouth and let her yap her gums off.”

But then ask them what they’re THINKING or what their THOUGHT PROCESS is DURING that event, and how do most respond?

Because their answer to THIS question will reveal whether they truly listen to their women, and thus actually understand them.

And guess what?

A man who DOESN’T listen to his woman does NOT truly love her.

So learn to love.

Here’s the thing…

Most men will say that they listen to their woman’s words. They think rationally about what she’s sharing while pinpointing her problems or errors, and likely drifting off what she’s saying as they form their thoughts on how they’re going to reply and enlighten her.

Then what happens?

They start dishing out explanations and advice, falsely believing they’re being useful, and this will make her respect them because of how knowledgeable and wise he is.

WRONG.

This is the QUICKEST WAY to LOSE your woman’s respect.

Though she may mask her true internal response, this is ENRAGING her!

In the moment, she wants to slap you for your denseness.

But you want her purring, don’t you?

So DROP that approach!

You want her feeling the need to get closer to you and touch you, yes?

Then STOP doing what’s shooting yourself in the foot.

You want to look her in the eye and see her giving you what the seducers call the “doggy dinner bowl look”, right?

That look of absolute attraction, admiration, reverence, trust and respect.

Because if you learn to listen to your woman the RIGHT WAY and you come to understand her as a result of it, this look will become ever so familiar to you.

It’ll be normal.

Here’s what you have to remember:

“HOW DID THIS MAKE HER FEEL?”

Remember this question, because it’s the one you should be asking yourself whenever your woman is sharing something with you.

You should not be thinking about logical answers and explanations, or worse, telling her where she’s wrong and setting her straight.

No, listening is the ability to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes and IMAGINE how their experience would have made us RESPOND, THINK and FEEL, and then responding and talking to THOSE things.

How a woman can tell if a man was listening or not is not determined by him simply remaining silent and “listening” when she speaks, but by HOW HE RESPONDS when it’s his turn to talk afterwards.

That response will DEMONSTRATE to her whether he was actually listening or not.

And she’ll KNOW what it was.

So how do you start getting THESE responses and make them a common phenomenon in your interactions with your woman?

1. AFFIRM HER EMOTION

First, once you’ve identified what your woman was feeling, you want to communicate that you know what it was to her.

You can just say, “Made you feel pretty happy, angry, sad, scared, whatever, huh?”

Or say something as simple as, “That really sucks!” if it was a negative experience, or, “That’s awesome!” if it was a positive one.

2. JUSTIFY THE EMOTION

3. IDENTIFY WITH THE EMOTION

4. EXPLORE THAT EMOTION