Kynanism

Ask most men how they listen to their women, and what do they say? “Well, I just shut my mouth and let her yap her gums off.” But then ask them what they’re THINKING or what their THOUGHT PROCESS is DURING that event, and how do most respond? Because their answer to THIS question will reveal whether they truly listen to their women, and thus actually understand them. And guess what? A man who DOESN’T listen to his woman does NOT truly love her. So learn to love. Here’s the thing… Most men will say that they listen to their woman’s words. They think rationally about what she’s sharing while pinpointing her problems or errors, and likely drifting off what she’s saying as they form their thoughts on how they’re going to reply and enlighten her. Then what happens? They start dishing out explanations and advice, falsely believing they’re being useful, and this will make her respect them because of how knowledgeable and wise he is. WRONG. This is the QUICKEST WAY to LOSE your woman’s respect...

The culprit for most misunderstanding and animosity in the marriage relation is that a woman unloads and dumps her worries and complaints onto her man and then he responds by giving her solutions and advice on how to solve the problems back of them. But what results from this? Doesn’t she whine: “He doesn’t UNDERSTAND me!” And him? Doesn’t he fume: “She gets mad when I try to HELP her!” What’s really going on here? Both the woman and the man are submitting to the sins predominant to their sex, which are SELF-PITY and INTELLECTUAL VANITY. She plays the malcontent victim and he plays the wise sage: she wallows in how she thinks she has been dealt with unfairly by life or people and treats him like a therapist, and he bloats up his ego and treats her like she is an ignorant foolish person requiring his god-given enlightened wisdom. These are both highly annoying and aggravating personas to have to deal with, and when two irritating personas encounter each other, can any good come of it?...

  The ignorant and vain alike have convinced us the way to win love, trust and respect is to achieve dominance by the conquests of our adversaries. They have misguided and deluded us into actually believing that what makes a man or woman great is to make achievements and victories that put them above others, and then work to keep others down beneath them. The world, in its ignorance and vanity, tells us this tyrannical approach will win us praise, affirmation and glory – and put us in every heart – so then finally, at long last, our souls can be satisfied because we’ve opened the gates that lead to the inner fulfillment us mortals secretly crave above all else.  But it does no such thing! Do not be deceived by the lies of this world that try to lead you astray! Let them not mislead you into error and its corresponding miseries! For assuredly: Those who have reached such stations and statuses by this destructive route, if their pride would permit a confession as to their errone...

 CHAPTER 1: Jealousy refrain from finding fault with others, and always focusing on their negative side and what they're doing wrong refrain from bribing others with favors and gifts in an effort to buy their love and esteem refrain from insincerely flattering others in an attempt to win their love and esteem refrain from accusing others of being disloyal based on suspicion and no evidence refrain from thwarting others in their search for love by putting stumbling blocks in their path  refrain from gossiping and talking destructively of others behind their backs refrain from stalking, spying and snooping refrain from devaluing a competitor to make yourself look more desirable refrain from begging and pleading for others attention and love CHAPTER 2: Envy refrain from criticizing others to tear them down refrain from seeking to discredit others and their doctrines, when they violate no one's right and freedoms  refrain from sabotaging others efforts to find prosperity and ...

If a person is constantly finding fault with others, trying to bribe peoples love with gifts and favors, insincerely flattering others to coerce their love, accusing others of disloyalty without evidence, twarting others search for love and putting stumbling blocks in their way, gossiping about others and making them look bad in front of others behind their back, stalking, spying and snooping and violating others privacy, trying to make competitors look inferior to them, and begging and pleading for love, they are insanely JEALOUS and they need to change! If a person is constantly criticizing others who excel them, trying to discredit others' character or doctrine, sabotaging and undermining others from thriving, doubting others and trying to discourage them from worthy purposes, and competing with others to try to outdo them and prove their superiority, they are consumed with ENVY and they must change! If a person is bullying others for their differences, shaming and humiliating t...