The Conditions of the Perfect Marriage and the Means to Establish Them

The Perfect Marriage is established when a husband and wife have come to maintain certain conditions they are equally responsible for establishing in their ongoing and ever-unfolding relationship with one another; they are these:

Condition #1

A husband and wife must train themselves to refrain from all the conducts that silently trigger one another, causing each other to harbor resentment or ill-will one for the other; and in short-circuiting these negative emotions, the temptation to punish the instigator by injuring them back, maybe in secret, or to retaliate by getting defensive and starting an argument no longer transpires, which would otherwise result in bringing the dangerous dynamic into operation, destroying the peace and harmony between the two minds, bringing instead a silent repelling of each mind from the other.

The process that must be undertaken is for both to educate themselves on what behaviors they perhaps unconsciously enact that instinctively trigger negative emotions in each other, become aware of these words and actions in themselves, perhaps enacted out of blind habit and stubbornness, and once discovered, work at correcting them until the task has been successfully carried out to completion. Then neither trigger each other any longer, and thus no longer generate any irritation and annoyance to resentment and bitterness in one another. This sets the stage for an ongoing and ever-unfolding peaceful and harmonious relationship dynamic with one another.

Condition #2

A husband and wife must forgive each other all their past wrongs (or present ones, if they're still in the process of working out the first condition), such that there no longer exists any resentment, anger, bitterness or grudges harbored toward one another, and both have vowed to work toward never repeating the same violation that hurt the other in the first place again.

What must take place is that usually the one who cares more will take the initiative to right their wrongs against the other, by exhibiting empathy and remorse: putting themselves in their mates' position, imagining how badly it must have felt to be a recipient of the offense, and then showing the other remorse and sorrow for having committed the wrong. Even if the transgression was a response to the others' instigation, the receiver will often start confessing their role in the dispute or grudge too, all to eventually forgive and be forgiven, so that a reconciliation is reached, which only strengthens the trust, love and respect in the union.

Condition #3

A husband and wife must have an unspoken friendly competition to see who can better serve the others needs, by seeking to anticipate and satisfy them before the other even recognizes their presence. Both their aims should be to put their mate's best interests above that of even their own, for this is love.

Condition #4

Work together as a mastermind alliance, according to their individual strengths, and bridging each others weaknesses, to deliver the service to the public that is required of them to entitle them the monetary compensation that will support their ideal lifestyle, in supporting their family and creating memories together.

Condition #5

Model an example in life they want their children to emulate and adopt, and open such topics up to discussion.

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Such as these are the conditions both a husband and a wife must work toward making a reality in their relationship to one another for it to become the much revered Perfect Marriage; and the better they get at establishing and maintaining these conditions in their marriage, the closer they will get to realizing life's greatest blessing: True Love!